God Saved Our Marriage

One of the biggest mistakes we make as wives, is that we sometimes get so caught up in life that we forget to pray for and over our husbands and ourselves. When disagreements arise, we tend to focus on fighting more in the flesh than turning to God and waring in the spirit. My husband and I have been married for almost 7 years. We got married quickly and brought in a lot of baggage on both ends. Pride can be the biggest downfall in a marriage and miscommunication. I come from a background of physical, mental and sexual abuse. I’ve dabbled in many different types of drugs, stripping and some more. I’ve seen a lot of bad things in my lifetime. Same for my husband he dabbled with a lot of different types of drugs, messed around with a lot of women and was controlling and more in his life. Both of us got saved a year or two before we met and got married but all the baggage and trauma that we have experienced in our lives was still there, going unaddressed. What we thought was normal and right was completely wrong. For example, my baggage caused me to be a woman who did not know what it meant to submit to or respect my husband. Even more, me being 8 years older caused me to lack trust in his ability to get things done “the right way”. From his perspective, he desired to control my every move and I felt like I couldn’t do anything without him being in my presence. In the heat of an argument, when I’d prefer to walk off and calm down, but he wanted to continue talking. Consequently, nothing would get settled because we were both acting and speaking in anger—which made room for words to get twisted, and things to get worse. We argued almost daily for nearly 6 years.

We eventually started trying to fill voids in our marriage by drinking and going out to clubs. Next thing you know we are drinking popping pills and going to clubs and bars almost every night—trying to fix what we thought was wrong with our marriage. We quickly learned that we hadn’t found the answer. In fact, these choices almost completely destroyed us. His temper got worse and he started breaking everything in the house. I started leaving and staying with my daughter or some nights in my car. Infidelity was eventually thrown into the mix of mess. When that happened, it was the last straw—I thought I’d completely lost my husband and he thought he’d completely lost me. BUT GOD!

3 days before I was planning to file for my divorce I finally got on my knees and cried out to God because I knew that all I wanted was for our family to be right—something we’d never experienced. I had my tequila on the bed from drinking, the pills in my system from popping and I still cried out to God and repented for all the wrong things I’d done. I was honest with God, and found myself realizing and admitting to ways I could do better for our marriage. Through my repentance I heard God clearly say BE STILL I GOT YOU! BE STILL I GOT YOU! Then, I started praying for my husband and God showed me a vision of him—his weight had been restored from the drug use, as he worshipped with his hands in the air. From that moment, it was clearer than it ever had been, that God is faithful and just! AND THAT GOD HAD US!

Our marriage has been restored and we are both on fire 🔥 for God! I have learned what it means to submit and respect my husband naturally and also care about his needs and feelings.  So wives there is Hope, even in places where it may seem to be lost! Start praying in your secret place and honor when you’re wrong as well. We are not always right. In order for anything to work we—man or woman, husband or wife—must be willing to look at ourselves. Consistent prayer and correcting yourself goes a long way—and that’s on both ends! 

This is our Prodigal Marriage! Our union is starting fresh and new. The year of 2020 was truly our Jubilee. Our marriage was restored. What some called a year of hell we called a year of blessings. We grew closer to God, stopped drinking, stopped smoking and popping pills! God did a 180 turn around in us. Yes there is healing that needs to take place but we both can and will get through it all with the strength of God and Him being on our side. The 8 dots in our logo represents new beginnings and the 2 doves meaning purity, gentleness, devotion, beauty, and faithfulness. Therefore the meaning behind the whole logo itself is New Covenant, because of Gods grace and His faithfulness we where able to overcome our trials once again and start fresh and new in our covenant with God and each other. 

Scripture to Remember

“And be not drunk with wine, wherein is excess; but be filled with the Spirit; Speaking to yourselves in psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, singing and making melody in your heart to the Lord; Giving thanks always for all things unto God and the Father in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ; Submitting yourselves one to another in the fear of God. Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body. Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing. Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it; That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word, That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish. So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself. For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church: For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones. For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh. This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church. Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband.”

‭‭Ephesians‬ ‭5:18-33‬ ‭KJV‬‬